Charlotte's Web

  Have you ever been in a dark place yet somehow God still used you to be a light for others? Every time I mention this line to others it’s mixed signals; some are confused as to how the two can be and others believe they know exactly the feelings that lie with what I ask. But have you ever been in a dark place? I mean so dark that even the smallest amount of light can’t creep inside. So dark that any ounce of sunlight doesn’t feel normal. It Takes Everything You’ve Got to Get Out of a Dark Place! For weeks I have been comfortable in a dark place YET still found time to be a light for others. Celebrating others, making time for others, attending events, traveling, being of service, being a listening ear for others, consoling others, sending gifts, loving others, speaking life into others, making others smile and so much more. YET, here in this dark place, I was still being a light for others. In this dark place where you feel helpless. Where days blend into each other and time ...

  "Sometimes it's hard not to give up on finding true love." - Unknown  Finding love isn't always easy. Some days it feels like a mission impossible and then many days it feels like "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!" Looking for love is like finding eggs for under $3 in this economy and even then you begin to question the quality of the eggs. Are they expired? What's wrong with them? Am I being punked? The list goes on and on. It's all an adventure! You get to go out on dates, experience new venues, learn new things, meet new people, and possibly maybe the love in which you seek. But the downside of it too is that sometimes you experience horrible dates, and questionable venues, learn things you wish you didn't, and meet people you sometimes wish you didn't! As we get older the journey absolutely becomes more frustrating than fun and the focus isn't about really having a good time but whether or not we're finding...

I've learned that grief is a process, not an event. There is no instant fix to suffering.  There are no words for times like this or the moments one experiences. Neither pretty nor subtle words can ease your pain, take away the origin of what you suffer. Every loss is different.  Grief is hard work and there is no blueprint or timeline that works the same for everyone. We all approach, handle and express grief differently. Some days will be harder than others. Some days you will feel as if you're barely existing. The one thing I am continuing to learn daily is to be patient with myself.  Most of our pain comes from wishing things were different. That our lives didn't have to change from the pain. In grief, there may be many days when we feel devastated, preoccupied, empty and, yet, filled with loneliness. Other days may be a bit brighter, and it feels possible to grow from grief even though we know that growth may take time. Growth is rarely easy and almost always br...

  ​ ​ It may be safe to say that no one has ever loved anyone the way that person wanted to be loved. We just have to accept the fact that some people are going to stay in our hearts even if they don’t stay in our lives. ​Love isn't complicated, people are. ​ People make love more complicated than it should be. Love should be easy and fun. If you are loved and love someone, I see no reason why you should ​n'​ t be happy. ​{Alexa play Mary J. Blige "Be Happy"} ​ I think that every female has been in a  ​position​ where she has liked someone, but isn't sure as to whether or not he likes her as much as he may say he does. So, her mind tells her to step back and see if he will ​ seek​ her. Sometimes it works in love and sometimes it doesn't. The truth of the matter is - when someone wants to be with you ... you'll know!  ​They​ will make sure you are aware of ​their ​ intentions and  ​their​ interest ​edness​ for you AND ONLY YOU! ​Th​ e ​y​ will put i...

2020 has taught me two things; 1. Healing is necessary and 2. How healing is a lifelong journey. Healing is not a destination or a one-stop shop. It indeed is a process that we must experience and endure with elegance, compassion, self-love, and above all else … humility. As one layer is uncovered in the process, then addressed and healed, another is almost immediately to appear, requesting for the attention of its owner – self. Life is always happening and that unfortunately is something we cannot control. It is an inevitable cycle of circumstances, connections, letdowns, accomplishments, and more. Despite experiencing many levels of healing, stemming from childhood and adolescent wounds, I realized as life continues to unfold itself in its peculiar ways, so do the inner layers within which need healing. As humans we have a vulnerable soul, we have a heart filled with emotions, we have a mind loaded with thoughts, we have a body that serves to survive yet we have pain, which is oozing...

Timing may not be everything. But it is something. We can never time things precisely without luck or faith and for the most part, timing is out of our hands. There will always be other aspects and other people involved. There is no "right time" for love, success, happiness, etc. And this is not because the right time does not actually exist because trust me it certainly does. But we will not know when it is right until we get to it. We will always be shooting in the dark and only recognizing how precise timing was after the fact. Things will never be exactly the way you want them to be. No matter the subject, nothing will ever be perfect. What is perfect anyways? In life, things will never be perfect.  Happiness is indefinable because circumstances in life are ever-changing. Happiness shows a difference from previous, sadder times. Happiness means that you have experienced a positive difference in your life and at ease with your life now and/or where it is heading. What we n...