New Year .... New You !!! Dear 2019

"Greater is coming....."


Often at times we kill ourselves worrying and wondering why things didn't go the way we planned, the way we wanted it to go, according to our will. But the reality is that many times God has told us that the reason why people have betrayed you, turned their backs on you, cheated on you, lied to and about you, walked away from you without reason, has absolutely nothing to do with you. It is because He has removed them from your life because they cannot go where He is planning on taking you next!!! We fail to realize that some will only hinder us in our next level of life because they have already served their purpose in our lives. Even the people whom we felt have betrayed us are apart of the plan.

At every next level of our lives, everybody can't be in the room. Let me repeat that ... at every next level of our lives, EVERYBODY can't be in the room. Some people need to watch the show from the outside looking in, some need to hear about it via word of mouth, and many may just need to catch the snippets on your social media page if they aren't blocked/deleted. When you are being aligned for something greater, you can't talk power moves around people that don't have the same hunger or intentions as you. Some may think you're bragging, some may think your being arrogant, cocky, conceited, whatever word you choose to use.

Learn to let GO and leave whoever needs to be left behind. It could be your significant other, your mother, your sister, your brother, cousin, best friend, etc. Often we fail to realize that people who refuse to grow with us simply can not go with us. We allow emotions to block goodness, because we convince ourselves that just because someone has been by our side for years and years on end that they are entitled to come along with us to each proceeding level that life has in store for us. But please let me be the first and last person to tell you this before 2018 ends ... NO ONE is entitled to anything pertaining to the life that is yours. At some point in our lives we must come to the realization to realize that everyone can't go with us to the next level and this is why:

SOME PEOPLE ARE SEASONAL ....

I read a statement about seasonal people and it said "some people are like leaves on a tree ... they are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves ..... as soon as the wind blows or it gets cold in your life they are gone!" Everything about that hit my soul and I said WELL GOT DAMN! And let me make this clear that if you fail to believe that you have seasonal people in your life than that's because you my dear may be the SEASONAL friend. Let me be clear that it's nothing wrong with "seasonal friends" because just like the seasons of the year we give and take what's needed from them and we move right along. Just like when Summer is over and we miss the warm weather; we may miss them too but we pack up our summer clothes and get ready for Fall.

SOME PEOPLE CAN'T HANDLE WHERE YOU'RE GOING !!!

Not everyone is going to be able to handle where you are going and the sooner you allow that settle within your soul, the sooner you will stop getting all twisted and bent out of shape over people who gave you the cold shoulder, turned their backs on you and even those who walked away. The reality will always be that you're going to lose some people along the way .... just remember that's okay. It ain't for everybody!

SOME PEOPLE WILL ONLY REMEMBER YOU FROM YOUR PAST ..........

Oh my dear GOD !!! I remember saying this to Shameka one day sitting in the salon .... I remember having this conversation with Tuck one day too .... I mean I recall saying this pretty much all summer long and yet and still. When people hit you with the "remember when" or the "I know him/her ..." see that's where I want to stop folks at and chime in with the "you knew" because whenever many of us are on our way to other things someone will always be looking in the rear view mirror of your life. Growth is essential, so who you knew 10 years ago definitely isn't the person you see today. Honestly, who you knew in January isn't who you see today in December ... because change is inevitable and if people can't see past that rear view than it's quite obvious that they don't have a clearer view. Those who constantly remind you or others of your past, can't propel you to your future .... that's a slingshot motion with no release! Just because you grew up with people doesn't always mean you have to grow old with them. Not everyone deserves a seat at the table of your life, if people feel as if they deserve a seat to the show tell them to bring their own chair and see if they still show up! Better yet let them know it's a cover charge and then tell me how may really actually come, because that will show you how many only come around when it's beneficial or ....  (FREE).

Have you felt lonely lately? Have you felt uncomfortable? GOOD that means you're being prepared for something GREAT! Many of us always scream "new year new me" but why wait until 2019 to do what you can do today? No need to even allow anyone or anything, any additional time to drain your energy or block the possible year end blessings. Please remember and NEVER forget, the Lord givETH and the Lord takETH and that ETH means continuously!!! So understand that he will always give us people and things and take them away and that's fine as long as it's HIM doing the giving and HIM doing the taking. Don't fight it either, just learn to to take the lessons, jewels, gems or whatever that season gave you and carry on. We can't keep carrying people from year to year if they provide no interest or purpose to your growth and development in life. 2019 can be everything you speak of it to be and much more, because there is so much power in the tongue ... the only thing I'm carrying over from 2018 into 2019 is funds in my checking and savings account !!!! No new year new me ... I'm walking in all of that right now ... daily!