“Honesty is free, lies gon’ cost you later.”
Let’s sit with that for a second.
Because that bill? It always comes due. And baby, it don’t take Apple Pay.
We often talk about heartbreak in the context of what someone did.
But what about the why?
• Why lie when the truth was an option?
• Why say “I love you” while simultaneously entertaining someone else?
• Why act present when your heart packed up months ago?
At this big age, I’m realizing—lies aren’t always malicious.
Sometimes they’re just cowardly.
Other times, they’re born out of fear, insecurity, ego…
Or worse—comfort.
🧠 Let’s unpack this, though:
Lies often have nothing to do with the other person.
They’re about self-preservation, shame, and shadow work left undone.
People lie because it’s easier to pretend than to confront.
Easier to manipulate the narrative than sit in the mess they created.
Easier to blame you for being “too emotional” than admit they’re emotionally unavailable.
But here’s the gag—
Whether you lie to spare feelings or to save face,
The impact lands the same.
Because the truth always reveals itself.
Maybe not on your time.
But in God’s time? Oh, it’s coming with receipts.
💔 To the men who lied to protect me:
You didn’t.
You delayed the heartbreak and made it sharper.
To the men who said I was “too much”:
You weren’t ready for even a fraction of me.
And that’s not a fault—it’s a fact.
To the women reading this who’ve ever questioned their intuition:
You weren’t wrong.
You were just early.
What would it look like to choose honesty even when it’s uncomfortable?
To say, “I’m not ready,” instead of pretending you are?
To admit, “I still have healing to do,” before asking someone else to pour into you?
Honesty is liberation.
Lies? That’s a life sentence in denial.
Lying will cost you:
• Respect.
• Real connection.
• A chance at something rooted and real.
Truth may sting for a moment.
But lies? They scar.
If you ever loved someone—really loved them—don’t lie.
Because the truth might hurt.
But the lie? That’s the betrayal.
And betrayal never forgets your face.
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