Everyone Doesn't Deserve You !!!

Of all the people we will date in life, finding someone who truly deserves you will be like looking for a needle in a haystack. There will be individuals who’ll measure up in many ways but finding someone who really has your best interest at heart and is a balance with you in all the ways that matter isn’t always easy.  Because of this, every now and then we tend to hang on longer than we should when it’s just not right! Every now and then the person you’re dating doesn’t deserve you. Wait .... what did she say? 🤨 Yes chiiiilllle’ read it again .... sometimes the person you’re dating DOES NOT DESERVE YOU‼️

Have you ever met someone with a flawless relationship? Trust and believe it’s a lot of hurt behind closed doors, but so often we get caught up that we miss the signs. A partner is supposed to support you, so your doubts are limited.

SUPPORT:  bear all or part of the weight of; hold up. a thing (partner) that bears the weight of something (partner) or keeps it upright. to hold up or serve as a foundation. to keep from fainting, yielding, or losing courage: COMFORT

Now if you find yourself in a connection in which you are often wondering what the hell you’re doing with your life, then dear that is NOT a good sign. A relationship is supposed to be about finding your equal. If your companion makes you feel like you don’t measure up to their expectations, or if you don’t feel like you’re on the same page than .... 🛑 that my friends is another red flag. You may have accomplished more than your partner or vice versa, you may have your shit together and they could be working on getting their shit together ... regardless of the nature of your differences it should be respected, valued, appreciated and all the above. If someone doesn’t respect your dreams, understand your grind, and/or push you to be a better you than you were the day before then they don’t respect you either. Self-absorption is factual. Self-absorption can lead to a controlling relationship. A relationship should NEVER be about one individual ... but always recognize who’s needs get the most attention!

Everyone doesn’t deserve you!!! How do they make you feel? It’s one thing if you’re equal in position to their family and close friends, but you shouldn’t be second. No one should ever feel that they’re not of importance to their partner. If there’s a big imbalance in how much they give and how much you give, it simply means they’re not invested as much as you. You want someone who’s giving it their all and not being just half-assed about you or your relationship. Just remember how perfectly fine you were doing before them and how perfectly fine you will do after they are gone. You can't be with someone like this—someone who makes you feel unhappy, depressed, confused, and wounded.

** DO NOT LOSE YOURSELF **

It’s normal to change a bit in a relationship, as a means to adjust, but you should never lose yourself completely. Sometimes we miss the signs of change and look at it as “evolving!”

EVOLVE: to produce by natural processes

Keyword: NATURAL ... not because or for someone else.

Don’t allow that breakdown to happen. Don’t let your companion break you! It’s in that breaking point that insecurities arise and your self-worth plunges. That is not the sign of a healthy relationship. People who make those they claim to love feel inferior are dealing with their own problems and hang-ups. You’re better than that. To quote Eleanor Roosevelt, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Don’t give them that permission. It’s sad how someone can go from being the reason you wake up smiling ... to the reason you cry yourself to sleep at night! Just remember how perfectly fine you were doing before them and how perfectly fine you will do after them. Your life doesn't depend on them ...if you're giving your all to someone and they can't even appreciate it, then what are you doing? You give your heart to people who don’t deserve it because your uncertainty of self. You think, maybe I’m asking for too much, or being unreasonable, but you shouldn’t have to guard your wants and needs, and the right person would definitely be willing to meet them. Your feelings aren’t unreasonable and wanting the love you know that you deserve isn’t either.

** EVERYONE DOESN’T DESERVE YOU ‼️‼️“ 💜