Dating in your 30's

Remember when you were younger and dating was fun? You know back in your 20's when we probably didn't have a care in the world, maybe had 1 or 2 boyfriend/girlfriends at the same time? Boy have the times changed !!! Dating in your 30's is definitely NO walk in the park. When we enter our 30's our mind frame changes about many things, what kind of significant other we are looking for, are kids acceptable, if so how many is to many, does he/she have a job, 401k plan, invested into something other than free before 11, do they still believe in partying every damn weekend, do they have a car, still live at home with their mom/dad, and the list just goes on and on. Remember in your 20's none of these things seemed relevant as much as they do now? Now in my 30's I am concerned as to whether or not he has a job, does he have a 5 year plan, is he looking to shack up or settle down, what's his idea of fun (traveling and making memories)  or hitting the club and overpaying for VIP and bottle service. One thing I have taken great notice of about men in my 30's is definitely their wardrobe. Does he still think Timberland boots is an all time go to shoe, is he standing in line for a pair of Jordan's that he had back in 2005 which have been re released in 2015 for 2-3 times it's original sale price? Does he know how to dress up in a suit and tie or a nice pair of slacks and dress shoes? Believe it or not some people don't ... I still know plenty of females in their 30's who are buying every pair of Jordan's and cut up jeans but don't know how to walk in a pair of 4-6 inch stilettos or apply eye liner for a nice night out on the town or with a good man.

Now one thing about dating in your 30's and beyond is the pool gets smaller and your tolerance and patience level with folks become less and less. It is sad but yet is it so true, we often assume that most people are mentally in a place where they know what it is they want or are willing to work for now to have a great life and a game plan in order but that isn't always the case. The dating pool isn't as easy as going to the bar or club on a Friday or Saturday night and possibly meeting someone, when you enter into your 30's the scenery changes based on your expectations. Speed dating, brunch events, food festivals, city social events, possible day events, scholarship and fundraiser events, social media and POF dating sites and even sometimes these venues and sites can wear you out. But the truth is, it gets much more difficult in your 30's. Sometimes it can just be a little discouraging, you may even think about the one good boyfriend/girlfriend you had back in your 20's and ask yourself why didn't it work out? But I say that to say this "don't get discouraged" trust me I know it's hard - hell sometimes it even seems like mission impossible BUT one thing I have learned is in order to meet a good one you have to first deal with the bad apples !!!

Love is <3