Your Friends Ain't Loyal

You’re Friends Aren’t Loyal

You notice how often people are screaming that all they want out of folks is loyalty above any and everything else?

Have you ever researched the word loyalty to see if what it means is actually want you really want?

Loyalty: the quality of being loyal to someone or something. A strong feeling of support or allegiance.

Yes, it’s good to have loyalty amongst many of things but is that all that there is to offer one another. What good is the loyalty of a friend if they can’t be honest with you? Never thought of it like that huh … think of it like this, you and Tina have been friends for over 15 years and to you she is one of the most loyal friends you have in your circle but is she honest with you about the decisions you make in life, the choices you choose to take, the questions you ask and the advice that she gives? Think about it! Sometimes a loyal friend only knows that … how to be loyal! Is your most loyal friend a “yes friend” you know one of them people who just tell you what you want to hear instead of what you need to know? Sometimes we don’t know the difference because the truth isn’t what we want to hear even when we know how good it is for the soul.

Loyalty isn’t everything if there is no honesty within it all. I’d take an honest friend any day but that’s just my opinion. You ever had a friend tell you that they lied because they thought you couldn’t handle the truth? Crazy how that sounds right, but I am sure most of us have heard it once or twice. We never seem to understand how much a lie can hurt us until we actually see the truth with our own eyes. I always heard this saying “man can’t handle the truth” yet back then it didn’t make sense to me but when I slowly evolved into my 30’s I thought WOW now I get it. And even as we get older some people still can’t handle the truth, no matter how much it may stare you directly in your face, how written it out it may be on paper, and no matter how much you experience it in everyday life. What do your loyal friends offer you? Is there friendship consistent, has it been tried and tested then tried and tested again, has it ended only to begin again? How supportive are they of you and your life endeavors? Can you pray with them? Can you trust them enough to share secrets beyond extreme? How valid is your “loyal friendship” if there are things you haven’t shared with one another? So, again are you’re friends really loyal?