Being how all I have really is male friends/associates I get the most feedback and blog topics from them. Then again having 8 brothers doesn't make it easy either. But let's get serious, how soon do men really expect sex from women? I don't know about you but I have heard guys say, if he doesn't feel like he's going to get some after 3 dates, he doesn't even bother asking the woman out again.
As crazy as it may sound I wasn't even in disbelief. Times have changed with dating and sexual encounters. Everything is often give it to me now or get going. So I conducted a little survey with a few of the guy friends/associates and it only confirmed that all my homies are HOES (LOL) nah I am joking (but I am sort of serious)!
The question was "how soon do men really expect sex?" & the responses:
John: well soon as possible because most men not going to attempt to take a girl seriously until we know if the sex good or not
Fogle: nowadays 2-3 weeks we live in a microwave age now
Valmond: depends on the vibe but within three dates generally
AA: it's very different for me with maturity to be honest. if there is sexual chemistry I'm going to try the first night. NOT expect but try there's a difference.
D: I don't really have a time frame for sex expectations. Each encounter has it's own time frame. It depends on the two or three people involved!
Squidward: if we spend any money, gas, extra time on you at that point we expect sex. In any case if we look at you we expect sex.
GSO: wouldn't say there's an expectation, unless it's already clearly stated that's what's going down.
AND THIS PROVES I KNOW A LOT OF HOES !!! LOL
No sir, but most of the homies keep it 100% and are always horny. So let's discuss.
There is only one hard and fast rule when it comes to finally having sex with your crush: do it when you're comfortable. We expect nothing more, nothing less. Despite what your favorite sitcom told you growing up, there is no such thing as the "three date rule" in today's world. Women that sleep with a man on the first date are not sluts. Women that wait three months to have sex are not prudes. Any gentleman worth a damn will agree.
Not to many people are familiar with the urban "third date rule" so let me school you.
The third date is generally considered the "sex date." It is the average number of dates until it is deemed proper and acceptable to have sex with a new mate; therefore, the Third Date Rule is the implementation of this theory.
So what difference does it make if it's the 1st date/encounter, 3rd date or 13th date? Sex shouldn't even be viewed as a “down payment” on a relationship and men receive it as a “thank you” for taking her out to dinner. And having sex on the first date shouldn't negatively impact your chances of a long-term relationship. Cause often it's just sex that both of the parties want and nothing more.
Some fear that if you have sex on the first date that maybe the man won't take you serious if you are really interested in getting to know him. *rubs hands together* It all depends on the guy, a great relationship can stem from sex on the first date and some men may not take you serious. Which makes me question the double standard, especially when men have random hookups with women ... but that's neither here nor there. Save it for another topic.
Not too many men are going to tell you NO if you want to have sex on the first date !!! If you do find one who says NO let's wait, he may be a keeper or an undercover creeper. One can never be to sure these days. Chemistry is chemistry. It's no reason NOT to enjoy one another if the chemistry is there for sure. Your decision to have sex is that of your own and not his. Regardless, guys who are interested in you and want to see you will still follow up and pursue you — especially after they've seen you naked.
Let's strip sexual activity of all it's damaging implications and bring it back to what it is: just sex. AIN'T SHIT WRONG with having sex on the first date. MEN are not going to think less of you or judge you. MEN are not going to slut-shame you. And WOMEN shouldn't feel apologetic or guilty.
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