Charlotte's Web

Remember when you were younger and dating was fun? You know back in your 20's when we probably didn't have a care in the world, maybe had 1 or 2 boyfriend/girlfriends at the same time? Boy have the times changed !!! Dating in your 30's is definitely NO walk in the park. When we enter our 30's our mind frame changes about many things, what kind of significant other we are looking for, are kids acceptable, if so how many is to many, does he/she have a job, 401k plan, invested into something other than free before 11, do they still believe in partying every damn weekend, do they have a car, still live at home with their mom/dad, and the list just goes on and on. Remember in your 20's none of these things seemed relevant as much as they do now? Now in my 30's I am concerned as to whether or not he has a job, does he have a 5 year plan, is he looking to shack up or settle down, what's his idea of fun (traveling and making memories)  or hitting the club and ov...

To keep or to delete? How long is to long to still have photos of an ex or a "jump off" in your phone? Is holding onto the pictures proving that you are still hoping for something to happen or still wishing to relive the moments that are dead and gone? If you are trying to move on with someone new yet you continue to hold onto something old are you holding yourself back? When I scroll thru my photos I see pictures of possibilities that didn't happen, exes, good times of what never became great times for whatever reason and much more. So to keep or to delete? What reasons would you have to keep the photos? Black mail? Relive the moments? Prove a point? Not realizing that sometimes keeping the photos can be hurting your forward progression in life, with love and just mentally. How many memories start to flow when you scroll thru those photos and you think to yourself "damn it wasn't all bad" and right there at that point you try to convince yourself of ho...

Let's discuss this topic today, why not? It was a recommended topic by a relative. Let me start of by saying this I generally speaking don't see an issue with keeping contact with an while in a new relationship. Often they are you're ex for a reason but just because we have exes doesn't always mean it ended on bad terms. Sometimes we just realize we aren't meant for each other in certain ways and a friendship may just be what serves each other best. My rule of thumb from past relationships was to try and always remain friends w my exes regardless of the situation (unless he betrayed me so much and got my best friend pregnant) you know things like that. Maybe an ex cheated on you in the past, doesn't mean you still can't be friends today. Sometimes you have to analyze the time line of when things happen in your life and why ... the young and dumb term has much relevance to it. Are you still hateful to your ex who cheated on you while you were 23? Let it go ...

You ever met someone in life and thought to yourself if only we had another chance to do it again we could do it right? Maybe because now you both are older, much wiser and at a point in life where you truly know how to communicate and be able to reciprocate the love from one another? Do you believe that an "ex" is an example of the type of person you don't want to cross paths with again? Are all exes the root of evil? I mean I do beg to differ, not all relationships end on bad terms. Some of the best relationships of true friendships are amongst some exes. But if you had a chance to do it all over again with an ex would you? Is it safe to say that "real love is pure and has no time frame" no matter how much time has passed, you sometimes get butterflies after all these years, you feel like your mental connection is so strong it feels wrong not being together. You watch that ex endure heartbreak, give advice, be supportive, their biggest fan in the stands, and...

Still waiting for the right partner to come along and fulfill that dream of what you think your life should be like? Yes I understand I was too. Sometimes we are so set on all we want to go right we don't realize all the wrong things we are doing in between. Often we set our minds on one person or an image of what we want that person to be that we don't see the image of someone great passing us by. It happens. It's called life. But are you blinding yourself because you are afraid of what may come or are you scared of what is in front of your eyes? Are you settling? So tired of waiting that you think you can turn someone who is so wrong for you into someone you want them to be? Change is good right? But is changing someone for your selfishness the answer? Is there a such thing as the perfect partner? How much are you willing to compromise for happiness? Often we are doing all the wrong things to try and make it seem so right. Think about it ... how often have you said ...

You’re Friends Aren’t Loyal You notice how often people are screaming that all they want out of folks is loyalty above any and everything else? Have you ever researched the word loyalty to see if what it means is actually want you really want? Loyalty: the quality of being loyal to someone or something. A strong feeling of support or allegiance. Yes, it’s good to have loyalty amongst many of things but is that all that there is to offer one another. What good is the loyalty of a friend if they can’t be honest with you? Never thought of it like that huh … think of it like this, you and Tina have been friends for over 15 years and to you she is one of the most loyal friends you have in your circle but is she honest with you about the decisions you make in life, the choices you choose to take, the questions you ask and the advice that she gives? Think about it! Sometimes a loyal friend only knows that … how to be loyal! Is your most loyal friend a “yes friend” you kn...