why do women settle for bad sex?

WHY SETTLE?

why do women settle for bad sex? Life is to short to settle for anything especially bad sex

Relationships are complicated in that they can be as simple as meeting the right person at the right time, or as difficult as trying to complete a rubix cube blindfolded. For some sex isn't a big deal (personally ME) it doesn't define a great relationship or makes a great relationship but I damn sure ain't going to settle for BAD SEX while in a relationship. Sex can either be the most/least important thing or fall anywhere in between. Again for some sex isn't a big deal, sometimes it's just something folks do to pass the time or please their partner. For others sex provides a safe haven when in a relationship and others just have a sexual orgasm craving they have to fulfill and sex does that for them. 

Women who settle for bad sex will point to any number of reasons for staying. The most common explanation of staying is "he's a good man and he has all these other great qualities. Why would I leave him just because the sex is bad?" I get it, trust me I do ! Because often good sex comes from bad dudes - you know the one's who fuck you so good your toes curls, are often felons, drug dealers, local rappers (you know 30 years old still making mix-tapes), etc. It is often said that women can't go backwards in a lifestyle and men can't go backwards sexually. Meaning, once a woman is accustomed to a certain lifestyle or way of being treated by a man, she will NO longer accept anything less than that. Now generally for men, once he is introduced to certain sexual acts and finds joy in them, he will no longer date a woman who won't meet those same basic desires. Example?!? Sure why not ! Remember back in the 90's when sucking dick was such an ambiguity and now it's all the RAVE and men are so stern that if they meet a chick and she doesn't suck dick, then it won't work! 

women settle for bad sex for different reasons:

- to hold on to a man they like, in hopes of teaching him how to please her.

- they've never known good sex, so they accept what they can get.

- they're afraid to question what he's doing...fearing he will walk out the door.

- they don't know how to tell him he's not doing it right.

- some women still believe that sex is about the man...and he doesn't have to satisfy her

the list goes on. 

until she find it within herself to tell him what she likes, and wants done, nothing will change.

Now finding a mate can be challenging but it damn sure isn't impossible (even though sometimes I feel like I am being repeatedly cast for a Mission Impossible movie) but that is neither here nor there. And while I am aware of the 80/20 rule I damn sure don't believe in it much and not sure why sex would be involved in that 20! My mind can't fathom being with someone and continuously having to fake orgasms, terrible fellatio, and having to look in their face everyday knowing that they can't please me. Now I truly believe in a monogamous relationship and I also believe that if I am only allowed to have sex with one person for the duration of the time I'm with said person, sexual compatibility would be at the top of the list - or damn near close to it for sure !!!

I wouldn't consider myself a hyper-sexual being but who doesn't like some good beef (don't act like you don't know what the good beef is). The only thing that separates your romantic relationship from your other relationship is the presence of sex. (seriously think about it) and I can reassure you this; if the sex is bad, YOU WILL NOT be doing a whole lot of it. So you might as well just give up and be friends. Honest hour: sometimes biology just doesn't want two people to be together, no matter how good of a person they are or how strong the sexual tension may or may not be. I mean sure you can give it time, and for some people that's enough - but to put it quite simply, all the conversation and physical attraction in the world won't change some mediocre dick ! *kanye shrug*