Charlotte's Web

Today's blog topic was provided by a guy. I always share and give credit where the credit is due. And being how the topic was presented to me it's clear to say he wanted my opinion on the matter. So let's dig into it a bit ....  social media can put a lot of extra stress on relationships these days. With all of the privacy of social media, it's sometimes impossible not to think about the fact that your significant other might be inappropriately liking someone else's photos on Instagram or getting down in the DM's on Twitter/IG/snap chat  (cause we all know that's where it goes down). It's a lot to stress about, especially if you're in a new relationship or have been cheated on in the past. Odds are, whether you'd like to admit it or not, if you're dating someone, you've thought about their social media habits before. And if you sit here reading this and say "no not me Nye" please stop lying to yourself. While many people...

Being how all I have really is male friends/associates I get the most feedback and blog topics from them. Then again having 8 brothers doesn't make it easy either. But let's get serious, how soon do men really expect sex from women? I don't know about you but I have heard guys say, if he doesn't feel like he's going to get some after 3 dates, he doesn't even bother asking the woman out again.  As crazy as it may sound I wasn't even in disbelief. Times have changed with dating and sexual encounters. Everything is often give it to me now or get going. So I conducted a little survey with a few of the guy friends/associates and it only confirmed that all my homies are HOES (LOL) nah I am joking (but I am sort of serious)!  The question was "how soon do men really expect sex?" & the responses: John : well soon as possible because most men not going to attempt to take a girl seriously until we know if the sex good or not Fogle : n...

I agree that opposites do attract, but not when you have absolutely NOTHING in common. I have always been open minded to dating men from different backgrounds, religious standpoints, etc. Don't get me wrong I still think it's great to meet people who are different, have different perspectives, challenge you and open you up to experiencing life in new ways. But there's a huge difference between "they know how to meringue and I've never done that before" and "we have nothing to talk about over dinner!" What I have found to be true, is that people who date become more alike over time and you build common interests, so it's not that important that you have everything in common with each other. It's important to date someone you have some common interests with. One thing with dating that we need to understand is PEOPLE ARE NOT PROJECTS !!! Take my word for it please. We all have dated someone in the past in whom we thought we could mold into...

FRIEND ZONE GONE WRONG? I am sure we all have regretted throwing someone in the friend zone, possibly tossed Mr./Mrs. Right in there because of one simple flaw that made you throw a curve ball. Once someone is placed in the friend zone is there any way of coming out of the friend zone? For me personally, I always say NO because if I friend zone you it's damn near a done deal. You are now like a brother to me, or my annoying cousin from up north, etc. But ask yourself this "are we friend zoning all the wrong people without giving them a chance?" Ever been told ... you're a great listener? you're a real catch? just to name a few ... that my dear is often when you have officially been friend zoned.  The great irony is that the friend zone really doesn't exist. The notion that once people make friends, they will never progress to a romantic relationship, is quickly debunked by a glance at the real world, replete with couples who were friends ...

WHY SETTLE? why do women settle for bad sex? Life is to short to settle for anything especially bad sex Relationships are complicated in that they can be as simple as meeting the right person at the right time, or as difficult as trying to complete a rubix cube blindfolded. For some sex isn't a big deal (personally ME) it doesn't define a great relationship or makes a great relationship but I damn sure ain't going to settle for BAD SEX while in a relationship. Sex can either be the most/least important thing or fall anywhere in between. Again for some sex isn't a big deal, sometimes it's just something folks do to pass the time or please their partner. For others sex provides a safe haven when in a relationship and others just have a sexual orgasm craving they have to fulfill and sex does that for them.  Women who settle for bad sex will point to any number of reasons for staying. The most common explanation of staying is "he's a good ma...

Why do women/men keep male/female friends around while in a relationship, knowing the guy/girl likes them? Is it wrong to have male friends if you have a boyfriend?  So this morning at 4 AM, I received a text message asking me to discuss this on my blog and often many of my topics come from females but surprisingly this one came from a male. I thought to myself it was a truly interesting topic, but my opinion definitely won't be the same as others. Girls mentality are different from a guy's mentality, because females are the trophy winners of placing guys in the friend zone without a doubt of it being anything more than just that. As a man in a relationship, if you feel threatened by the presence of a male friend does it mean you have some insecurities? I was told that guys don't "friend zone" females, either they fucking or not. Nothing more and nothing less. I disagree but we won't go there. Every one is entitled to their opinion on the subject. Now w...

Does it really matter??? Conversation has led to this blog. Does body count matter when you are over the age of 30? Why are numbers such a big deal? Why do we think they reveal something about us people? Yes, maybe a higher number suggests a more open attitude toward sex and a lower number suggests being more selective, but I don't even like thinking about it in terms of a higher or lower because, well higher and lower in relation to what? Also, a specific number isn't that telling at all. Say you are 25 years old and have been sexually active since you were 15, and your number is 20. This could mean you've never had a serious relationship, but despite being single you've only sex with two people a year, which eventually added up to 20. Or it could mean you've been a monogamous relationship for 9 years, but that one year you were single you had a hell of a Full Moon party on your trip to Miami. Those are two very different attitude towards sex. Everyone...

DOES GOOD PUSSY COME WITH A BAD ATTITUDE??? Yes !!! Class is in session. Now any one who knows me, truly know my background. I have 8 brothers and I tell people all the time my poppa was a rolling stone. Hell me and my brother are 3 months apart (and we not twins and don't have the same mother)! So when it comes to certain topics at hand I have the male perspective often, and besides growing up all my best friends were guys. So earlier today while having conversation w some homies this topic came about. Now one homie said to me "all women have bad attitudes" I immediately laughed and thought he knows nothing! But at the same time thinking, can he be right? Now let's set the record straight a bit between good pussy and bad pussy, cause I often here it's some chicks out here w a trash can in between their legs, who can't pop a headstand on the dick and walking around w the worst attitude to man-kind (so I've been told). So let's be clear...

In this current day and age, the dating game get's real serious. I had someone tell me today that when you hit around 35 the "settle down" mode kicks in for most men, granted most females will settle down when they fee l they have foun d something worth settling for. One thing about dating is you can end up wasting a lot of time on a few frogs and ugly ducklings before you find your prince charming or Cinderella. So let me share a few signs that may prove you are ready to settle down: When you are ready to listen and compromise on almost anything, from breakfast to money. When you no longer feel like you might be missing out on something better. You accept all of your partner's flaws unconditionally. You're fully prepared to put someone else ahead of yourself. When you stop hiding your stretch marks and other so-called "imperfections" because you know your partner loves you anyway. Now trust me that this list can go on for eternity but thes...