is your relationship for comfort or convenience?

com·fort

noun

1. 1.

   a state of physical ease and freedom from pain or constraint.

   "room for four people to travel in comfort"
2. 2.

   the easing or alleviation of a person's feelings of grief or distress.

   "a few words of comfort"

verb

1. 1.

   ease the grief or distress of; console.

   "she broke down in tears and her friend tried to comfort her"

con·ven·ience

noun

1. 1.

   the state of being able to proceed with something with little effort or difficulty.

   "the museum has a cafeteria for your convenience"
2. 2.

   BRITISH

   a public restroom.

Today I blog about the difference between the two, a friend of mine read my blog and said Nye you should write about this topic because it is something we see daily and I agree. It is a great topic ... I recently had a conversation with someone about how often we extend dead relationships and continue to water dead situations because of either comfort or convenience. Most relationships with dead end signs are due to both, sometimes we have such a comfort w folks because they know our ways and we know theirs so we fear having to learn another person and their ways. Sometimes people stay in relationships because it's so convenient for them, like the corner store that stays open till 2am when you want to go buy a vanilla dutch, or need that late night magnum for the side chick, and so on ... hence the word "convenience". 

STOP DATING SOMEONE YOU DON'T HAVE A FUTURE WITH JUST BECAUSE IT'S CONVENIENT !

I know it's hard because man I been there. I was stuck in my ways like "OK it's been several years of back and forth and I know this is so convenient because I can always come back", it's like moving out of your parents house and if being an adult doesn't work they never tell you that you aren't allowed back home - same with some relationships. It is called a "relationship of convenience" and sometimes as females being such an emotional being we don't realize it in the beginning. Often we end up being HIS convenience, and reality is this; that should NEVER be the case when you are in a mature relationship. 

Now don't think this only applies to people dating ... oh it can apply to married folks also. Is your marriage for comfort, fear of being alone, you married him but you're NOT in love with anymore, so why do you stay? The relationship is now filled with COMFORT and maybe you think you can't find anything or anyone better (applies to men too). Some men jump into the womb of marriage and then realize maybe I rushed this, maybe we didn't get to enjoy each other enough, or sometimes you finally get to see someone's true colors once the ceremony has ended. And then you have marriage for convenience, you're staying for the kids, because your spouse says you can work things out, because you feel as if it ended you wouldn't be able to financially manage and move on the convenience of the lifestyle and saying "IZ MARRIED NOW" has become modern day English to you.

It is often true that a relationship will not make you happy, not one bit especially if you aren't happy with yourself. "

“Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder…”– Thoreau

We all have these expectations of what we want in life, how we want our lives to be, and much more but the reality is we sometimes sell ourselves short.

 You need to find people who appreciate what you do for them and who will reciprocate these actions.

Don't allow the comfort nor the convenience of what you have make you who you aren't because of fear ... 

Love is <3